Comments on: At night I dream about term papers http://www.dorieannmorgan.com/2009/05/14/at-night-i-dream-about-term-papers/ Navigating Twenty-Something Suburban Life Fri, 10 Feb 2012 16:38:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Crazy Daisy http://www.dorieannmorgan.com/2009/05/14/at-night-i-dream-about-term-papers/comment-page-1/#comment-924 Crazy Daisy Wed, 10 Jun 2009 05:33:36 +0000 http://www.dorieannmorgan.com/?p=294#comment-924 Interesting post. I have a master's degree and LOVE continuing education. While I don't read a complete book very often (how do you read 3 a week?), I love learning and am actually thinking about a 2nd masters. My husband has a BS degree and has considered going back to school, but hasn't. I think the hardest thing for us has been, with this situation, is that I find myself frustrated that my husband hasn't gone back to school. I have to find a balance, and understand maybe that really isn't what he wants... Interesting post. I have a master’s degree and LOVE continuing education. While I don’t read a complete book very often (how do you read 3 a week?), I love learning and am actually thinking about a 2nd masters.

My husband has a BS degree and has considered going back to school, but hasn’t.

I think the hardest thing for us has been, with this situation, is that I find myself frustrated that my husband hasn’t gone back to school. I have to find a balance, and understand maybe that really isn’t what he wants…

]]> By: Sandra Krauss http://www.dorieannmorgan.com/2009/05/14/at-night-i-dream-about-term-papers/comment-page-1/#comment-907 Sandra Krauss Tue, 26 May 2009 19:28:37 +0000 http://www.dorieannmorgan.com/?p=294#comment-907 Dorie, Ger has a MASTERS and I have ZIP. While I would LOVE to go back to school for education...I find raising Cameron and soon to be baby #2 higher on my list right now. I hope one day to go back to school, but I feel happy with what I have accomplished in my life. It took me a while to feel that way, but I do :) Dorie,

Ger has a MASTERS and I have ZIP. While I would LOVE to go back to school for education…I find raising Cameron and soon to be baby #2 higher on my list right now. I hope one day to go back to school, but I feel happy with what I have accomplished in my life. It took me a while to feel that way, but I do :)

]]> By: charlotte http://www.dorieannmorgan.com/2009/05/14/at-night-i-dream-about-term-papers/comment-page-1/#comment-893 charlotte Mon, 18 May 2009 13:33:16 +0000 http://www.dorieannmorgan.com/?p=294#comment-893 This was actually a point of contention with my ex-fiance and myself. After I supported her through getting her R.N., she was happy to never enter a classroom again- even through she was 3 classes away from a bachelor's degree. Meanwhile, I was happy to be spending the next ten years (and hundreds of thousands of dollars) for school. She complained she just wanted to come home from work at night and watch TV. This was actually a point of contention with my ex-fiance and myself. After I supported her through getting her R.N., she was happy to never enter a classroom again- even through she was 3 classes away from a bachelor’s degree. Meanwhile, I was happy to be spending the next ten years (and hundreds of thousands of dollars) for school. She complained she just wanted to come home from work at night and watch TV.

]]> By: Leslie http://www.dorieannmorgan.com/2009/05/14/at-night-i-dream-about-term-papers/comment-page-1/#comment-888 Leslie Thu, 14 May 2009 22:05:40 +0000 http://www.dorieannmorgan.com/?p=294#comment-888 Hi Dorie, I have lots of ideas about this, but here are just a few: 1) It is easier doing graduate school when you're both doing grad school. When we have nights doing homework and no one feels neglected. If only one is doing grad school, have a plan for spending quality time together so the other one doesn't feel neglected. 2) Wives need to be sensitive to the fact that increased education also means increased salary. I have a friend for whom this has created tension related to being the breadwinner in her home. Now she wants to be a stay at home mom and her husband doesn't want to give up her salary. 3) More education means developing relationships with people in your classes that your spouse may never meet. I have found that if I am talking about someone a lot, it is worth having our families meet each other. My husband and I have met a friend's family at an art museum and then had lunch, and went to a hibachi grill with another friend from school and his girlfriend. So, I guess those are things to think about. My main point is this: your marriage comes first. Grad classes command so much attention that without intentional efforts, your marriage will become 2nd place very quickly. Leslie Hi Dorie,
I have lots of ideas about this, but here are just a few:

1) It is easier doing graduate school when you’re both doing grad school. When we have nights doing homework and no one feels neglected. If only one is doing grad school, have a plan for spending quality time together so the other one doesn’t feel neglected.

2) Wives need to be sensitive to the fact that increased education also means increased salary. I have a friend for whom this has created tension related to being the breadwinner in her home. Now she wants to be a stay at home mom and her husband doesn’t want to give up her salary.

3) More education means developing relationships with people in your classes that your spouse may never meet. I have found that if I am talking about someone a lot, it is worth having our families meet each other. My husband and I have met a friend’s family at an art museum and then had lunch, and went to a hibachi grill with another friend from school and his girlfriend.

So, I guess those are things to think about. My main point is this: your marriage comes first. Grad classes command so much attention that without intentional efforts, your marriage will become 2nd place very quickly.

Leslie

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