Comments on: 10 weeks later: I cry http://www.dorieannmorgan.com/2009/04/27/10-weeks-later-i-cry/ Navigating Twenty-Something Suburban Life Fri, 10 Feb 2012 16:38:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Susan Pogorzelski http://www.dorieannmorgan.com/2009/04/27/10-weeks-later-i-cry/comment-page-1/#comment-868 Susan Pogorzelski Tue, 28 Apr 2009 13:34:30 +0000 http://www.dorieannmorgan.com/?p=282#comment-868 Dorie: I can't tell you how much this post moved me. I think that grief hits us all in different ways, at different times, and certainly, in different places. I think that when loss is unexpected -- or maybe just not wanting to be faced -- it takes awhile to maybe sink in, makes it difficult to face the reality of the situation because we don't want it to be a reality...not just yet. Personally, I tend to bottle up my emotions. I think I kind of convince myself that I'm trying to be strong for other people, for my family members, but, really, I think it might be a way of trying to escape those feelings for myself, hoping that they will go away. But they don't really ever go away because grief is something that has to be felt, acknowledged. And I've kind of learned that that's ok -- that's how you heal. I don't really know if I'm just rambling or if I'm making any sense. Really, I want you to know how much I appreciate this post and how I wish you all the comfort. Dorie: I can’t tell you how much this post moved me. I think that grief hits us all in different ways, at different times, and certainly, in different places. I think that when loss is unexpected — or maybe just not wanting to be faced — it takes awhile to maybe sink in, makes it difficult to face the reality of the situation because we don’t want it to be a reality…not just yet.

Personally, I tend to bottle up my emotions. I think I kind of convince myself that I’m trying to be strong for other people, for my family members, but, really, I think it might be a way of trying to escape those feelings for myself, hoping that they will go away. But they don’t really ever go away because grief is something that has to be felt, acknowledged. And I’ve kind of learned that that’s ok — that’s how you heal.

I don’t really know if I’m just rambling or if I’m making any sense. Really, I want you to know how much I appreciate this post and how I wish you all the comfort.

]]> By: charlotte http://www.dorieannmorgan.com/2009/04/27/10-weeks-later-i-cry/comment-page-1/#comment-866 charlotte Tue, 28 Apr 2009 02:19:30 +0000 http://www.dorieannmorgan.com/?p=282#comment-866 I find I cry most effectively in public anymore. Seems I can't help anyone when I'm sitting at home in the middle of a moat of snotty kleenex. I find I cry most effectively in public anymore. Seems I can’t help anyone when I’m sitting at home in the middle of a moat of snotty kleenex.

]]> By: Carmella Tress http://www.dorieannmorgan.com/2009/04/27/10-weeks-later-i-cry/comment-page-1/#comment-865 Carmella Tress Mon, 27 Apr 2009 14:00:57 +0000 http://www.dorieannmorgan.com/?p=282#comment-865 ...beautiful way of describing the heartbreaking reality you are facing right now. Like many who love you, I wish there was something I could do but know that there is not. …beautiful way of describing the heartbreaking reality you are facing right now. Like many who love you, I wish there was something I could do but know that there is not.

]]> By: Cassandra Jowett http://www.dorieannmorgan.com/2009/04/27/10-weeks-later-i-cry/comment-page-1/#comment-864 Cassandra Jowett Mon, 27 Apr 2009 13:17:48 +0000 http://www.dorieannmorgan.com/?p=282#comment-864 Some of my family, including my mom, said that to me when they were sick and dying. And some family who were left behind told me, as I cried, that crying doesn't accomplish anything, so I shouldn't do it. Well, I'm a crier. I can cry at the drop of a hat. I'm not depressed, and it's usually about big things like missing my mom, who died when I was 18. Sometimes we just have to cry and it doesn't have to mean anything or accomplish anything. For me, it means I'm being honest with myself. Whether it's just tears welling up in my eyes or a full-on fetal position bawl session. Eventually, you will start moving forward again. I don't know how long it will take or how you will know, but one day you'll just realize you're back in the thick of things and although you still miss him, you know it's better for you, and for his memory, that you keep on trucking. Some of my family, including my mom, said that to me when they were sick and dying. And some family who were left behind told me, as I cried, that crying doesn’t accomplish anything, so I shouldn’t do it.

Well, I’m a crier. I can cry at the drop of a hat. I’m not depressed, and it’s usually about big things like missing my mom, who died when I was 18.

Sometimes we just have to cry and it doesn’t have to mean anything or accomplish anything. For me, it means I’m being honest with myself. Whether it’s just tears welling up in my eyes or a full-on fetal position bawl session.

Eventually, you will start moving forward again. I don’t know how long it will take or how you will know, but one day you’ll just realize you’re back in the thick of things and although you still miss him, you know it’s better for you, and for his memory, that you keep on trucking.

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